Sunday, September 02, 2007

Garden of Ideas

"Charles tries to hide" by Steve Cote

Joe from Garden of Ideas located here in Ridgefield, Connecticut, came by our house or rather, property today to help us lay out the land. He was here for about 45 minutes and within that time gave a total assessment of our property and brainstormed a solid plan of what I can do - given light and deer restraints. Brilliant! I've all ready pulled out three rose bushes that have taken over my garden the last two summers since we've lived here. They will be replaced by bee & butterfly loving perennials and annuals. There have been plantings in my yard that I just haven't known what to do with or why they didn't look right and he explained it immediately. He also said that I have a sweet maple tree that would give me syrup if I tapped it! Anyone know how to tap a tree for syrup?

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

what makes someone attracted to another? What keeps the interest?

What makes someone attracted to another person? I know that whenever I have moved or had a big life change, I inevitably meet new people before the change. The same seems to be true for most people and is bringing on this question. I have been at a cafe with my husband while spending a weekend in San Francisco - we had people approach us wanting to talk because 'we looked interesting'. I don't think I am but what would make one person interesting and another not? It seems to be some type of life force.

What causes this attraction? confidence? the way one carries him or herself? The ability to converse naturally and show empathy? Perhaps I am trying to articulate charisma.

In Wikipedia the definition for charisma seems to fit:
The word charisma (from the Greek word χάρισμα (kharisma), "gift" or "divine favor," from kharizesthai, "to favor," from kharis, "favor": see also charism) refers to a rare trait found in certain human personalities usually including extreme charm and a 'magnetic' quality of personality and/or appearance along with innate and powerfully sophisticated personal communicability and persuasiveness. Though very difficult or even impossible to define accurately (due to a lack of widely accepted criteria in regard to the trait), charisma is often used to describe an (elusive, even undefinable) personality trait that often includes the seemingly 'supernatural' or uncanny ability to lead, charm, persuade, inspire, and/or influence people. It refers especially to a quality in certain people who easily draw the attention and admiration (or even hatred if the charisma is negative) of others due to a 'magnetic' quality of personality and/or appearance. Similar terms/phrases related to charisma include: grace, exuberance, equanimity, mystique, positive energy, joie de vivre, extreme charm, personal magnetism, personal appeal, "electricity," and allure, among many others[1]. Usually many of these specific qualities must be present within a single individual for the person to be considered highly charismatic by the public and their peers.

Despite the strong emotions they so often induce in others, charismatic individuals generally project unusual calmness, confidence, assertiveness, dominance, authenticity, and focus, and almost always possess superb communication and/or oratorical skills. Although the etymology of the word ("divine gift") might suggest that charisma can't be acquired, and despite the persistent inability to accurately define or even fully understand the concept, it is believed that charisma can be taught and/or learned. Others [Who?] disagree with this assertion and maintain that it is an inborn trait and that it cannot be learned, taught, or 'gained.'

Monday, August 27, 2007

Men often become what they believe themselves to be. If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it even if I didn’t have it in the beginning.

Back to school!

I love this time of year so much that I've decided to go back to school! That's right, I'm finally going to get my undergraduate degree - 'a few' years later than most. This was the culmination of meeting with a therapist (Seattle family stuff) who led me to an executive coach (career stuff) that finally led me to a point where I can more clearly see who I am and what I should be doing and where I should be. It's going to be a lot of work but at this point in my life, I'm up for the challenge.

By the way, yes, Paul is giddy over being married to a school girl. ;)

Thursday, August 23, 2007

Jenna Jameson - Keepin' it real

I just heard that Jenna Jameson had her breast implants removed. She said that she has wanted to do it because outside of filming porn, she always felt self-conscious and uncomfortable. Bravo to her (now about that facial reconstruction...). I have to wonder if there is entire generation of men that don't know what white women's natural breasts looks like.

I'm going out on a limb here but I would love to see sex appeal become real again. As long as there are people flocking to Vegas to go to Paris and New York City, there's an entire population of people that prefer fakes...purses, lashes, boobs, whatever.

I just had a scary thought - what if we found out that our nations breast implants were made in China and contained some foreign arsenic or lead or cat guts. that IS sexy.

Sheeee's baaaack! Hey kids, I found my password. I also ordered a book today on how to get and live an organized life. I'll talk with you soon.


Wednesday, April 18, 2007

"Use what talents you possess; the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best." -- Henry Van Dyke

Thursday, April 05, 2007

You've been waiting for me to post something zen? No, you've been waiting for me to post this! Damn.

Friday, March 23, 2007

It is funny because it is true!

So B and I went to Luc's in Ridgefield for dinner and had an excellent burger avec fromage et frit and pepper seared tuna and of course a dirty martini for dinner before heading over to the Aldrich museum to hear Roz Chast speak on her experience as a cartoonist for many publications most notably New Yorker magazine. She came across as a slightly obsessive-compulsive (in a New Yorker kind of way) really humble and funny person. The best moment was when she couldn't stop laughing and had to pull away from the microphone after bringing up the prescription sleep aid that causes people to eat, cook meals, roast chickens and even drive...while they are asleep. We all laughed at the ridiculousness of the state of our society - summed up so simply.

The event was filmed for a CBS Sunday Morning Segment on Roz Chast that will be featured this Sunday. Watch for B (and those fabulous earrings!) and me on your TV!!